Learning to Recognize Your Ego


What is an ego?

Well, in case you didn't know it, we all have one. The ego is the logical rational part of your mind that allows you to separate yourself from other people. You use it each and every day to weigh up situations, people and circumstances in the process of making rational decisions. When I say "I am Sonia Devine", I am identifying with this part... MY ego.

Sometimes the Ego is associated with an inflated sense of pride or arrogance. As an example, when we talk about a person who is behaving arrogantly, people often say this person has a "huge Ego".

But it's a lot more than that. It has a definite purpose. It is responsible for organizing the different elements of the Self to create some wholeness and integration. All of us require this to function effectively as human beings.

So how does this fit in with your self-esteem? When we focus too much on this part, we begin to become separated from the rest of humanity, and outside forces have more control over us.

For example, does the quality of your self-image rely on any of the following?



How much money you have
What you do for a living
Who you know
How you look
Where you live
What kind of car you drive



If you are defined by what you do for a living, then your self-esteem is at the mercy of this factor. So if you lose your job, where does this leave you? Would you still like and respect yourself if you were broke?

It is within your nature to be conditioned to go after these superficial achievements, but I'll let you in on a secret; they have absolutely nothing to do with who you are! You're so much more than your physical body. Your soul is perfect just as it is, and it will continue to live on after you exit the Earth.

All of us are connected by collective consciousness. When you are able to see past the ego, you learn to cultivate true self-reliance. You accept yourself as the perfect being that you are AT THIS VERY MOMENT- not for who you will be once you have had your hair fixed or gotten in with the right crowd.

When you can get past the ego, you experience true self-love - and this comes from your higher wisdom. Your knowledge, your compassion, your strength are perfect - and these things are permanent.
By: Sonia Devine


Author Bio
Sonia Devine is a qualified professional hypnotherapist and success coach with a caring and committed approach to healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find more of her information on attracting wealth, self-image, love, relationships, phobias and much more on her website
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How To Wake Up To The Part Of You That You Haven't Learned To Love

Your Gifts Are Disguised As Problems

I'd like to take you on a journey into yourself, to the part you haven't learned to love.

Why am I qualified to write about this, let alone believe you need self-love?

Reflect on a time where you experienced negative emotions such as anger, frustration, hate, anxiety, fear or worry?

If you experienced these emotions more than frequently, you need self-love more than you realize.

This is not a patronizing statement to minimize your self-worth. Any time you experience disempowering emotions, it is a call to wake up to parts of you you've ignored.

Think of a time you were accused of something by another person and were offended by the allegation.

Perhaps you retaliated in anger and inflamed the situation, thus experiencing a flood of toxic emotions.

I use the words toxic and disempowering to describe lower emotional states, in contrast to emotions of a higher frequency such as love, peace, joy, etc.

What you consider challenging in your life is a gift disguised as problems, to bring you back to the wholeness of yourself.

To reunite with the oneness of your being requires taking the journey into yourself.

It involves connecting with your forgotten self. You will recognize this part of you when you let go of the beliefs, ideas and stories you believe to be true.

This authentic self is real and you will recognize it the moment you get a glimpse of it.

Often, people come into your life to awaken you to your greater self. They are gift-bearing life lessons and experiences you didn't know you needed until that time.

They won't appear in the form you expect, however, they will force you to examine the fragmented parts you've dissociated with.

Author Matt Kahn explains in Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins with You how to draw your awareness to your body and notice what the pain or strong emotions are inviting you to connect with: "Just by bringing greater attention to the part of your body where strong emotions or physical pain linger, you are loosening each layer of cellular memory to assist in another moment of healing."

How Others View You Is Never About You

The following is something I experienced years ago and helped me to reconnect with parts of me I had overlooked at the time.

I'd known my friend for many years, yet there was a point in our friendship where he was constantly criticising me for my life choices.

This caused tension between us and there came a point where I was ready to abandon the friendship altogether because of the constant criticism. I felt as though our friendship had disintegrated beyond repair and I was ready to walk away.

However, looking back, I realize that my friend was a gift in a form I didn't recognize. He forced me to look deep within myself and heal the part of me I was at war with.

I was easily offended by his criticism and felt justified because of the hurt I experienced. I neglected to realize the negative emotions were really a mask inviting me to love and integrate my fractured parts.

Matt Khan states: "As a remedy, it is important to remember that how others view you is never about you at all. While they can share their views and opinions about who you are in their play, it doesn't have to match up with who you know yourself to be."

I possessed the qualities he was criticising in me, otherwise I wouldn't have been offended by it.

Have you noticed when somebody judges you for something you believe is untrue, you are less likely to take offense because it seems ridiculous?

This happens when you integrate the fractured parts of your psyche into the oneness of your being.

Awaken From Your Sleep

When you are judged by another person, they too possess that quality you are being judged for. If you are insulted, you are identifying with the judgment and must heal that part of yourself.

Matt Kahn explains how what you take offence to is the process of healing through your nervous system: "On a cellular level, whenever a person has an emotional reaction, their nervous system is releasing layers of conditioning."

So when others point the finger at you, it is symbolic of directing you back to yourself. It may not seem that way because your ego is inflamed.

However, if you allow the dust to settle and look deep into yourself, you will realise the seed of what you are being accused of is present within you.

Your accusers may appear like a wolf in sheep's clothing, yet they are a gift because they force you to come home to yourself, instead of identifying with your unintegrated parts.

If it hurts to hear what they are accusing you of, it means you are not seeing how that quality can help you awaken from your sleep.

It is calling you to let go of judging yourself and love the part of you that is: hurt, angry, betrayed or let down.

I'm not suggesting you not be upset by their accusations because this would be insensitive of you. I'm inviting you to feel the pain and look deep within yourself to heal the part of you that is irritated by the pain.

It was the Buddha who proclaimed centuries ago: "Painful feelings arose, but they did not invade my mind and remain."

Part of you wants to come home to your core self.

This part is the integration of all that you are and will ever be. It is awaiting your return when you let go of the storyline the ego espouses.

The process of awakening and enlightenment requires seeing past the falsehoods of the ego and reuniting with the wholeness of your core nature.

To live a remarkable life, you must take consistent action in spite of your fears and doubts. Download a FREE copy of my motivational eBook, NAVIGATE LIFE and embark upon your journey of greatness today!

By Tony Fahkry

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Self Love Isn't Selfish! Daily Practice of These 9 Things Will Enrich Your Life

Self-love isn't selfish; it's necessary in creating your own personal bliss. The purest foundation for building any relationship is to have it based on love. Loving the self is no different. Truly you can only love and accept others to the extent that you love and accept yourself. And an important key to raising your energy vibration within is to embody a high level of self-acceptance.

Research shows that physically cleaning the clutter from your home, a room or your office helps one to be more productive and successful. This holds true for mental cleansing, as well. Practicing self-love is a mental cleansing of sorts. It will help you to clear out your consciousness, much of the old programming, that does not serve you to the highest good, with ease and grace. Self-love is so important because the root of almost any illness, relationship problem and the financial challenge has come from an aspect of you, that you do not love and accept fully.

Practice doing these 9 things daily to stay on the mastery track of self-love, and enrich your life.

Don't Give Your Power Away to Others: Society is in a lot of ways structured around giving your power to others and it begins in childhood. We're taught to give our power to our parents, teachers, peers, etc. This often continues as we mature; then giving our power to our boss, our partners, and our friends. Know that your personal power is a gift and when you give it away, you often times wind up feeling depleted of your own personal passion and enjoyment in life. Stand up for you and take your power back. Be in charge and responsible for your own happiness. Don't you deserve that much?

Saying NO is OK: Taking care of you first is your right and is healthy for you. As a person that always put myself last, I realized that I often felt that I should help everyone no matter what the cost. Or, I would spend time with someone I loved even though I knew that they would bring me down and deplete my energy. I later realized that the cost was my health. Spending time with someone who depleted my personal energy or saying yes to something that I knew wasn't good for me, made me sick. Today, I know my worth and have enough self-love to say NO to things that aren't good for me because it's necessary. I hope you do too.

Stop Taking Things Personally: When you do anything in your life, know that you're doing it for you and for your well-being. The same goes for others. Nothing anyone does or says has anything to do with you. Yet sometimes we interpret something that was not the intention of the other person. And this, my friends, comes from a place of fear, ego, or lack of self-love. Don't take things personally. Just breathe a few deep breaths while breathing in love to your being. You'll soon realize that it had nothing to do with you but everything to do with them.

Stop Being a Perfectionist: There are always ways to improve, but nothing in this world is perfect. You're only setting yourself up for failure when you hold yourself to a higher standard than reasonably possible. And certainly, don't compare yourself to others as everyone is unique with different strengths and talents. So try to focus every day on your gifts, talents, and things you've done well. The minute flaws of non-perfection you may have are only learning opportunities on how to do things better; not a failure. As a recovering fellow perfectionist, this was a rough one for me. Today I can say with confidence, "I'm not perfect, and it's OK!" Try to just accept that nothing is perfect in this world... including you.

Stop Beating Up on Yourself: Being a recovering perfectionist, I was gifted at sitting in my head with my mistakes for a long time and beating myself up. Again, the object of the game here is to learn from those mistakes so that we may do it better next time; then move on. Sometimes, old habits do die hard though, so try to recognize the energetic damage pattern that you're creating by beating yourself up and just stop it in that moment. Realize that this is not self-love and that your better than that! I will just say this... "I know it's easier said than done but keep working on it!" Your that important!

Don't Take on Other People's Stuff: Most people who care about others are truly sensitive, empathetic and kind-hearted and we tend to take on other people's stuff right and left. We tend to think that in some way we are or can help them out. The energetic reality is just the opposite. You cannot take their stuff. They can only rid themselves of their stuff, the same as you. But if you take their stuff, now you both have it and you can truly make yourself sick over it. Take it from someone who always got sick because of others. Again, hard habit to break, but I'm proud to say that I don't live there anymore. I only occasionally visit, and that's OK.

Stop Rescuing Others: This is perhaps the hardest and most painful lesson to learn. As a healer, I want everyone I work with to heal and get better. I always want the very best for my friends and family. Know this: The only person you can rescue or save is yourself. Remember that saying, "You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make them drink."? It's no different with people. They have to be ready for themselves. When you try to rescue another, you only end up taking on more of their stuff. Again, still bad for them, and then bad for you too, in epic proportions.

Stop Complaining: Guilty as charged here when I was sick and couldn't get better for a long time. I have to say though, that now I try to always look on the positive side of things. And when I have bad moments or days, I no longer beat myself up about it. At the end of the day, when you complain all of the time, the law of attraction says that you become a magnet for negativity. I can promise you that this is true; said from personal experience.

Go with Your Passion Daily: Most children do exactly what it is that they love. I realize along with maturity and adulthood, comes responsibility, but you should still do something you love daily. Not everyone is in a job that they love and the theory is that you need a job to survive so you stay in a passionless state. In this scenario, one has two options: Find a new job that aligns more with what it is that you love, or stay in the current job, and find what you are passionate about outside of work. Set yourself up for something you look forward to every day. If you spend your entire life doing things that bring you no joy, you are not creating a joyful life for yourself.

With a lack of self-love, often people end up with an imbalance in some way, shape, or form, which then creates an illness to act as a signal or wake-up call to take a look at things. Said person (this was me) blows off the wake-up call and goes about their daily business. Since the core issue has not been addressed, the second signal or wake-up call the body sends out is likely to be more severe and more dramatic and harder to deal with. This for me was thyroid cancer. Today, I consider a wake-up call a great gift. I have learned in my life to sincerely appreciate with the most gratitude, the little things in life. I also listen a bit closer to my body than ever before. One could say that I learned the lesson!! I hope you never have to learn the lesson! Listen to what your body is telling you... it's that important!

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