5 Decisions To Shred Fear Out Of Your Life
I have personally witnessed thousands of people worldwide imprisoned by fear. They are trapped behind the bars of not being worthy of success and shackled to their past mistakes. Are you one of those prisoners? Have you been wrongly convicted and given a life sentence by the enemy of fear? It's time for you to break free! How can you possibly break through the bondage that has kept you chained down and unable to move forward in years? Make a decision. That's right. You must make the decision that you will no longer be a slave to fear.
The original Hebrew root of the word "decision" means to cut off and get rid of. It's done. It's finished. No more. It's decision time! Take a deep breath and get ready to change your life with these five decisions that will shred fear out of your life.
Decision #1: Make the Shift
In the movie, "Facing the Giants", the coach cares enough about one of his players to get in his face and confront him about his fear. He sees that the player has the gift of leadership, but is wasting it. The coach pushes the player and makes him go to a level where he's never been. He's got to see beyond where he's been by doing something that he's never done. At that point, the shift happens...the shift from the past to the present...from where he's been to where he wants to go now.
A shift gets developed when you're focused. Lack of focus will kill your dreams! When you make that shift and get laser-focused, it's guaranteed that you will achieve your goals and dreams. Unfortunately, the biggest distractions in our lives that cause us to lose focus are other people. These people don't believe in you or your dream. They are insecure dream stealers that won't take the action for that shift in life to happen. There's only one thing to do when you are surrounded by these types of people...get away! If they are family or close friends, then it's time to love them, leave them and show them. Let them know that you love them but you have to take time for yourself to achieve your dreams and then your action that you show them in pursuit of your goals and dreams will greatly change how they see you. What happens next? The shift!
Decision #2: Take Ownership of Your Why
One of the top things that you must do to get fear out of your life is take ownership of your Why, which is your ultimate purpose. It's the reason you get out of bed every day. When you take ownership of your Why, you own it no matter what happens, no matter what occurs each and every day. It's your Why and nobody can take that from you! Your Why is the insurance that backs up your goals and dreams. There's no way that you can give up on your daily quest to achieve your goals and dreams if have taken full ownership of your Why.
You have to protect your Why, because it's yours and you own it. If someone walked into your home and started taking your valuables, I have no doubt that you would stop them, because it's your stuff! You own it! However, why do most people allow the naysayers to steal your Why on a daily basis? It's simple. They haven't taken true ownership of their Why in life. You have to fight for your Why like you would fight for your belongings. If you have someone in your life trying to take your Why away from you, the get rid of them. Like I said before, love them, leave them and show them. It's your Why so take some action to protect it!
Decision #3: Make Your Pledge
A pledge is a declaration, a solemn vow. It's your responsibility to make a pledge to yourself and your Why to be the very best that you can get every single day. When you make a declaration to yourself and everyone around you that you will not give up on your Why, fear will flee! There's no room for fear if you are truly committed to your Why!
That's right. I said a commitment! Your pledge is a formal commitment. It doesn't waiver or falter during the tough times. Your pledge causes you to lead by example with your attitude, words, ethics, and values. Your pledge is the driving force behind your Why. It pushes you and serves as a constant reminder about your commitment.
With the confrontation and resistance that constantly bombard us in society, your pledge will be challenged. You will be pressured to give up, because the world says that your pledge is not realistic. What do you do? When you get pushed, push back hard and speak your Why in the face of the enemy. You have made pledge, a vow, to your Why and you must refuse to let anyone cause you to doubt it. Remember, you've made the shift in your life to go to the next level, you've taken ownership of your Why, and now your pledge to your Why is in place. So, what's next?
Decision #4: Build Your Mastermind Team
Your mastermind team is your support system. They empower you to prosper in every area of your life no matter what obstacles stand in your way or the adversity that you face. Now, close your eyes and visualize who is on your mastermind team. Does that image make you smile or does it cause you to realize why you are failing in various areas of your life?
If the people on your mastermind team do not add value you to your life and encourage you to go after your dreams, then it's time for a change. An unmotivated, discouraging mastermind team will ruin your chances of ever achieving your ultimate Why in life. These types of people are selfish and their motives are very different than yours. Fear will constantly consume you if you continue to allow these people to negatively affect your life.
What if you have no one in your closest circle of influence that you would ask to be on your mastermind team? Well, it's time for you to venture outside of that circle and meet some new people that have similar goals and dreams. The Lifestyle Freedom Club is the #1 success and motivation club in the world, and the members are motivated champions just like you! Check out this amazing place to build your mastermind team at www.LifestyleFreedomClub.com. No fear exists in this club!
Decision #5: Create a Solid Foundation
When a house is built, a lot of time is spent laying the foundation. If the foundation is not solid, then the house will eventually crumble. Similarly, you cannot achieve your Why in life without a solid foundation of commitment. Your Why will fall apart and become unachievable if you are not seriously committed.
Imagine your commitment as the foundation of your Why house. The windows are your daily action steps, the walls are your habits, the roof consists of your mastermind team, and so on. Do you realize how easily this entire structure will fail if your commitment is shaky? It might be stable for a while but it will eventually fall down around you.
You also strengthen your foundation by continuing to grow your roots deeper and deeper. Your roots are developed by immersing yourself in personal development - listening to motivational CDs, reading inspirational books, etc. Your belief in yourself and your ability to achieve your Why will skyrocket when you create that daily habit of learning. As your belief builds, your roots grow and your foundation becomes more solid.
I'm often asked if it's okay to take some time off. When you stop your daily success habits and take a break from your personal development, cracks will start to develop in your foundation. Even the slightest little crack will allow the weed of fear to sprout through and endanger your Why. If you are truly committed to the achievement of your Why in life, then you should absolutely no desire to take a break from your success journey.
Now, let's recap...
Decision #1: Make the Shift
Decision #2: Take Ownership of Your Why
Decision #3: Make Your Pledge
Decision #4: Build Your Mastermind Team
Decision #5: Create a Solid Foundation
Now, it's your turn! Take action today and make these five decisions to get rid of the fear that is haunting you and preventing you from going forward in life. Don't let the enemy of fear win. You are a Champion and you can defeat fear!
by John Di Lemme
John was a clinically diagnosed stutterer, who went on to build a huge business and become an International Motivational Speaker. He shocks millions globally by exposing the truth about how to achieve monumental life success despite the labels that society has placed on you. Through his award winning live seminars, power-packed training programs, live tele-classes, and websites, and LifeStyle Freedom Club, John Di Lemme has made success a reality for thousands of people worldwide.
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What To Do When You Feel Stuck In A Life You Don't Love
When you read the title of this article, did you immediately think, "That is me?" Does your life feel like you have two legs submerged in a pit of quicksand and the more you push and pull and attempt to "get out," the more submerged you get and the more tired you feel?
You are not alone. In fact, the next thing I tell you may sound less than inspiring. But read on, as you will soon find, the most challenging truths are actually the greatest opportunities for amazing joy.
The truth is that humans are destined to feel stuck at various points in their lives. There is no way to avoid it and no way to ignore it. Feeling stuck is an absolute given condition of human beings.
So, you may be asking, "Why is being stuck a given?" It is because humans are always growing, always changing and always evolving. There is never a moment when your body, mind or spirit stops recreating itself. Humans are always desiring (wanting something) - even if it is simply a breath of air. When you achieve a goal you have strived toward for years, that goal ceases to be a goal the minute it is attained. And just like you don't get rid of bad thoughts or bad habits-you replace them with better thoughts or better behaviors - what you desire is constantly being replaced by what you desire next. This doesn't mean you are not momentarily happy with where you are. However, your mind seeks expansion. There is only so long that humans can stay satisfied with where they are before new desires pop into their heads. Desiring is what continually evolves the universe and the human spirit.
Another thing to be aware of is that you have multiple areas of your life that are happening simultaneously. I call these the Nine Environments of Holistic Living. In each of these environments, you have different goals and different intentions. You may be focused heavily on one or two areas, and after achieving amazing things in those areas, "suddenly" become aware of another area that is lacking in some way. You are now focusing on that neglected area. Regardless of how satisfied you are in the other areas, the neglected area, you are now focused on, feels stagnate and stuck. For example, a person who achieves a long-worked-for goal in her career may then shift her focus to relationships and feel stuck in a bad relationship or stuck in not having a relationship. It doesn't take away from her career achievements, but the feeling is still there because the focus has shifted.
The feeling of being stuck is simply you telling yourself that there is more that you desire in a given area or areas. The frustration of being stuck, and what may create negative emotions around it, is often caused when you aren't sure how to make the changes you want to get unstuck. Thus, being stuck may create a panic inside of you that the situation will never change. The degree to which you feel the stuck-ness and how quickly you respond to this feeling often determines how being stuck affects you.
First, I think it useful to define what being stuck really means. Being stuck may not mean what you think it means, which can be what makes being stuck feel so hopeless and frustrating. Being stuck is not a destination. It is not a life sentence. It also does not define who you are, just where you are at any given moment. Being stuck is simply a notification-a sign if you will that it is time to start making something new and different happen in your life. When you are feeling stuck, it is simply another part of you tapping you on the proverbial shoulder saying, "Hey, I am no longer satisfied with where I am or what I have in a particular area and I need something else."
Just like if you have ever driven a car and you stop at a red light. When the light turns green, that is your sign to get moving. Being stuck is a simply a green light-a sign saying, it is time to get moving. The key is knowing how to get moving. This is where being stuck can feel like a horrible condition, a limiting circumstance and a trap. If you don't know that pushing on the gas pedal will get you moving in your car, you can't move. If your car is in the wrong gear, you can't move. And if you resist that the light is green, you cannot move. If you resist that you feel stuck (which means you don't welcome the emotion, but instead get caught up in the feelings of being trapped and hampered), you actually put your focus on the being stuck, instead of your focus on the sign to get moving. If you embrace that the sign is there, you then have the freedom to explore the options for how to get moving. When you have the freedom to explore, you can usually create change pretty quickly.
This may sound a bit confusing, so let me be as clear as possible given this is a critical piece for allowing yourself to get unstuck. By acknowledging that you are in a place you don't want to be, but not delving into the emotions of being there, you free up your energy to focus on where you do want to be. You free up your energy to focus on what you do want, not what you don't want. This is the foundation of the Law of Attraction, which says that which you focus your energy on is what you attract to you-wanted or unwanted. Learning to use being stuck as a positive sign that you are desiring more, opens you up to asking how to get it, instead of delving into the emotions of being where you don't want to be, and fearing you are always going to be there.
No matter what question you ask yourself, you will get an answer. If you ask yourself-Why am I stuck here? What did I do to deserve this? Why does this always happen to me? Am I going to be here forever?-you will get an answer. And, most likely, you will get an answer that won't assist you in pushing on your gas pedal or figuring out you are in the wrong gear. If you ask empowering questions, like-What do I want that I don't have? How can I get it? What have I been doing and what can I do differently?-you begin focusing on answers that will propel you forward.
Getting unstuck can be an easy and smooth process. The key is using the proper tools to assist you. Using tools-questions, exercises, programs, processes, other people, etc.-is the number one way for re-directing your focus. Tools are how humans create in the universe. Learning and using the tools of notes and instruments are what allow you to make music. Learning and using hammers, nails and engineering are what allow you to construct buildings. Learning and using the alphabet, grammar and paper or computers are what allow you to write novels and poetry. Getting unstuck, changing your life, manifesting your desires is done by learning and using the natural tools of creating the Law of Attraction, the Nine Environments of Holistic Living, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the Process of Deliberate Creation, the Prosperity Process, the Power of Intention, the Universal Laws, Law of Attraction Coaches, Messages from Abraham or Seth, etc.
No one has to stay stuck. No one has to live a life they don't love. It is simply recognizing the sign that it is time to make a change. Then, assessing what tools will assist in making that change, and beginning the process. Embrace the feeling of being stuck so you can get moving, seek out the tools you need and start today.
By: Melissa Quiter
Here is to your freedom!
Author Bio
Melissa Jean Quiter is an inspirational life and business strategist with Provocative Communications. She is the author of the 4-phase, life and business-changing program, "Being Spiritual Doesn't Mean Being Poor! How to remove what blocks you from making money & creating happiness," based on the Law of Attraction and the three required elements (the universal laws, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Nine Environments of Holistic Living) to ensure your success 100% of the time. To get started, visit: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/takingcontrol.html. Melissa also teaches a simple, yet profound, daily process for deliberately creating your life in her book, "My cat made me a millionaire… (and how yours can too!)," available here: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/cat.html. E-mail: Quiter@Texas.net or call: (512) 341-0556.
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When you read the title of this article, did you immediately think, "That is me?" Does your life feel like you have two legs submerged in a pit of quicksand and the more you push and pull and attempt to "get out," the more submerged you get and the more tired you feel?
You are not alone. In fact, the next thing I tell you may sound less than inspiring. But read on, as you will soon find, the most challenging truths are actually the greatest opportunities for amazing joy.
The truth is that humans are destined to feel stuck at various points in their lives. There is no way to avoid it and no way to ignore it. Feeling stuck is an absolute given condition of human beings.
So, you may be asking, "Why is being stuck a given?" It is because humans are always growing, always changing and always evolving. There is never a moment when your body, mind or spirit stops recreating itself. Humans are always desiring (wanting something) - even if it is simply a breath of air. When you achieve a goal you have strived toward for years, that goal ceases to be a goal the minute it is attained. And just like you don't get rid of bad thoughts or bad habits-you replace them with better thoughts or better behaviors - what you desire is constantly being replaced by what you desire next. This doesn't mean you are not momentarily happy with where you are. However, your mind seeks expansion. There is only so long that humans can stay satisfied with where they are before new desires pop into their heads. Desiring is what continually evolves the universe and the human spirit.
Another thing to be aware of is that you have multiple areas of your life that are happening simultaneously. I call these the Nine Environments of Holistic Living. In each of these environments, you have different goals and different intentions. You may be focused heavily on one or two areas, and after achieving amazing things in those areas, "suddenly" become aware of another area that is lacking in some way. You are now focusing on that neglected area. Regardless of how satisfied you are in the other areas, the neglected area, you are now focused on, feels stagnate and stuck. For example, a person who achieves a long-worked-for goal in her career may then shift her focus to relationships and feel stuck in a bad relationship or stuck in not having a relationship. It doesn't take away from her career achievements, but the feeling is still there because the focus has shifted.
The feeling of being stuck is simply you telling yourself that there is more that you desire in a given area or areas. The frustration of being stuck, and what may create negative emotions around it, is often caused when you aren't sure how to make the changes you want to get unstuck. Thus, being stuck may create a panic inside of you that the situation will never change. The degree to which you feel the stuck-ness and how quickly you respond to this feeling often determines how being stuck affects you.
First, I think it useful to define what being stuck really means. Being stuck may not mean what you think it means, which can be what makes being stuck feel so hopeless and frustrating. Being stuck is not a destination. It is not a life sentence. It also does not define who you are, just where you are at any given moment. Being stuck is simply a notification-a sign if you will that it is time to start making something new and different happen in your life. When you are feeling stuck, it is simply another part of you tapping you on the proverbial shoulder saying, "Hey, I am no longer satisfied with where I am or what I have in a particular area and I need something else."
Just like if you have ever driven a car and you stop at a red light. When the light turns green, that is your sign to get moving. Being stuck is a simply a green light-a sign saying, it is time to get moving. The key is knowing how to get moving. This is where being stuck can feel like a horrible condition, a limiting circumstance and a trap. If you don't know that pushing on the gas pedal will get you moving in your car, you can't move. If your car is in the wrong gear, you can't move. And if you resist that the light is green, you cannot move. If you resist that you feel stuck (which means you don't welcome the emotion, but instead get caught up in the feelings of being trapped and hampered), you actually put your focus on the being stuck, instead of your focus on the sign to get moving. If you embrace that the sign is there, you then have the freedom to explore the options for how to get moving. When you have the freedom to explore, you can usually create change pretty quickly.
This may sound a bit confusing, so let me be as clear as possible given this is a critical piece for allowing yourself to get unstuck. By acknowledging that you are in a place you don't want to be, but not delving into the emotions of being there, you free up your energy to focus on where you do want to be. You free up your energy to focus on what you do want, not what you don't want. This is the foundation of the Law of Attraction, which says that which you focus your energy on is what you attract to you-wanted or unwanted. Learning to use being stuck as a positive sign that you are desiring more, opens you up to asking how to get it, instead of delving into the emotions of being where you don't want to be, and fearing you are always going to be there.
No matter what question you ask yourself, you will get an answer. If you ask yourself-Why am I stuck here? What did I do to deserve this? Why does this always happen to me? Am I going to be here forever?-you will get an answer. And, most likely, you will get an answer that won't assist you in pushing on your gas pedal or figuring out you are in the wrong gear. If you ask empowering questions, like-What do I want that I don't have? How can I get it? What have I been doing and what can I do differently?-you begin focusing on answers that will propel you forward.
Getting unstuck can be an easy and smooth process. The key is using the proper tools to assist you. Using tools-questions, exercises, programs, processes, other people, etc.-is the number one way for re-directing your focus. Tools are how humans create in the universe. Learning and using the tools of notes and instruments are what allow you to make music. Learning and using hammers, nails and engineering are what allow you to construct buildings. Learning and using the alphabet, grammar and paper or computers are what allow you to write novels and poetry. Getting unstuck, changing your life, manifesting your desires is done by learning and using the natural tools of creating the Law of Attraction, the Nine Environments of Holistic Living, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the Process of Deliberate Creation, the Prosperity Process, the Power of Intention, the Universal Laws, Law of Attraction Coaches, Messages from Abraham or Seth, etc.
No one has to stay stuck. No one has to live a life they don't love. It is simply recognizing the sign that it is time to make a change. Then, assessing what tools will assist in making that change, and beginning the process. Embrace the feeling of being stuck so you can get moving, seek out the tools you need and start today.
By: Melissa Quiter
Here is to your freedom!
Author Bio
Melissa Jean Quiter is an inspirational life and business strategist with Provocative Communications. She is the author of the 4-phase, life and business-changing program, "Being Spiritual Doesn't Mean Being Poor! How to remove what blocks you from making money & creating happiness," based on the Law of Attraction and the three required elements (the universal laws, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Nine Environments of Holistic Living) to ensure your success 100% of the time. To get started, visit: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/takingcontrol.html. Melissa also teaches a simple, yet profound, daily process for deliberately creating your life in her book, "My cat made me a millionaire… (and how yours can too!)," available here: www.ProvocativeCommunications.com/cat.html. E-mail: Quiter@Texas.net or call: (512) 341-0556.
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