5 Decisions To Shred Fear Out Of Your Life 

 I have personally witnessed thousands of people worldwide imprisoned by fear.  They are trapped behind the bars of not being worthy of success and shackled to their past mistakes. Are you one of those prisoners?  Have you been wrongly convicted and given a life sentence by the enemy of fear?  It's time for you to break free!  How can you possibly break through the bondage that has kept you chained down and unable to move forward in years?  Make a decision.  That's right.  You must make the decision that you will no longer be a slave to fear. 

The original Hebrew root of the word "decision" means to cut off and get rid of.  It's done. It's finished.  No more. It's decision time!  Take a deep breath and get ready to change your life with these five decisions that will shred fear out of your life.

Decision #1: Make the Shift

In the movie, "Facing the Giants", the coach cares enough about one of his players to get in his face and confront him about his fear. He sees that the player has the gift of leadership, but is wasting it.  The coach pushes the player and makes him go to a level where he's never been.  He's got to see beyond where he's been by doing something that he's never done.  At that point, the shift happens...the shift from the past to the present...from where he's been to where he wants to go now.

A shift gets developed when you're focused.  Lack of focus will kill your dreams! When you make that shift and get laser-focused, it's guaranteed that you will achieve your goals and dreams.  Unfortunately, the biggest distractions in our lives that cause us to lose focus are other people.  These people don't believe in you or your dream.  They are insecure dream stealers that won't take the action for that shift in life to happen.  There's only one thing to do when you are surrounded by these types of people...get away!  If they are family or close friends, then it's time to love them, leave them and show them.  Let them know that you love them but you have to take time for yourself to achieve your dreams and then your action that you show them in pursuit of your goals and dreams will greatly change how they see you.  What happens next?  The shift!

Decision #2: Take Ownership of Your Why

One of the top things that you must do to get fear out of your life is take ownership of your Why, which is your ultimate purpose. It's the reason you get out of bed every day.  When you take ownership of your Why, you own it no matter what happens, no matter what occurs each and every day. It's your Why and nobody can take that from you!  Your Why is the insurance that backs up your goals and dreams. There's no way that you can give up on your daily quest to achieve your goals and dreams if have taken full ownership of your Why. 

You have to protect your Why, because it's yours and you own it.  If someone walked into your home and started taking your valuables, I have no doubt that you would stop them, because it's your stuff!  You own it!  However, why do most people allow the naysayers to steal your Why on a daily basis?  It's simple.  They haven't taken true ownership of their Why in life.  You have to fight for your Why like you would fight for your belongings. If you have someone in your life trying to take your Why away from you, the get rid of them.  Like I said before, love them, leave them and show them.  It's your Why so take some action to protect it! 

Decision #3: Make Your Pledge

A pledge is a declaration, a solemn vow.   It's your responsibility to make a pledge to yourself and your Why to be the very best that you can get every single day.  When you make a declaration to yourself and everyone around you that you will not give up on your Why, fear will flee!  There's no room for fear if you are truly committed to your Why!

That's right.  I said a commitment! Your pledge is a formal commitment.  It doesn't waiver or falter during the tough times.  Your pledge causes you to lead by example with your attitude, words, ethics, and values.  Your pledge is the driving force behind your Why.  It pushes you and serves as a constant reminder about your commitment. 

With the confrontation and resistance that constantly bombard us in society, your pledge will be challenged.  You will be pressured to give up, because the world says that your pledge is not realistic. What do you do? When you get pushed, push back hard and speak your Why in the face of the enemy.  You have made pledge, a vow, to your Why and you must refuse to let anyone cause you to doubt it.  Remember, you've made the shift in your life to go to the next level, you've taken ownership of your Why, and now your pledge to your Why is in place.  So, what's next?

Decision #4: Build Your Mastermind Team 

Your mastermind team is your support system.  They empower you to prosper in every area of your life no matter what obstacles stand in your way or the adversity that you face. Now, close your eyes and visualize who is on your mastermind team.  Does that image make you smile or does it cause you to realize why you are failing in various areas of your life?

If the people on your mastermind team do not add value you to your life and encourage you to go after your dreams, then it's time for a change.  An unmotivated, discouraging mastermind team will ruin your chances of ever achieving your ultimate Why in life.  These types of people are selfish and their motives are very different than yours. Fear will constantly consume you if you continue to allow these people to negatively affect your life.

What if you have no one in your closest circle of influence that you would ask to be on your mastermind team? Well, it's time for you to venture outside of that circle and meet some new people that have similar goals and dreams. The Lifestyle Freedom Club is the #1 success and motivation club in the world, and the members are motivated champions just like you!  Check out this amazing place to build your mastermind team at www.LifestyleFreedomClub.com.  No fear exists in this club! 

Decision #5: Create a Solid Foundation

When a house is built, a lot of time is spent laying the foundation.  If the foundation is not solid, then the house will eventually crumble.  Similarly, you cannot achieve your Why in life without a solid foundation of commitment.  Your Why will fall apart and become unachievable if you are not seriously committed. 

Imagine your commitment as the foundation of your Why house.  The windows are your daily action steps, the walls are your habits, the roof consists of your mastermind team, and so on.  Do you realize how easily this entire structure will fail if your commitment is shaky?  It might be stable for a while but it will eventually fall down around you.

You also strengthen your foundation by continuing to grow your roots deeper and deeper.  Your roots are developed by immersing yourself in personal development - listening to motivational CDs, reading inspirational books, etc.  Your belief in yourself and your ability to achieve your Why will skyrocket when you create that daily habit of learning.  As your belief builds, your roots grow and your foundation becomes more solid. 

I'm often asked if it's okay to take some time off.  When you stop your daily success habits and take a break from your personal development, cracks will start to develop in your foundation.  Even the slightest little crack will allow the weed of fear to sprout through and endanger your Why.  If you are truly committed to the achievement of your Why in life, then you should absolutely no desire to take a break from your success journey.

Now, let's recap...

Decision #1: Make the Shift
Decision #2: Take Ownership of Your Why
Decision #3: Make Your Pledge
Decision #4: Build Your Mastermind Team
Decision #5: Create a Solid Foundation

Now, it's your turn!  Take action today and make these five decisions to get rid of the fear that is haunting you and preventing you from going forward in life.  Don't let the enemy of fear win.  You are a Champion and you can defeat fear!

by John Di Lemme


John was a clinically diagnosed stutterer, who went on to build a huge business and become an International Motivational Speaker. He shocks millions globally by exposing the truth about how to achieve monumental life success despite the labels that society has placed on you. Through his award winning live seminars, power-packed training programs, live tele-classes, and websites,  and  LifeStyle Freedom Club, John Di Lemme has made success a reality for thousands  of people worldwide.

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Are Meditation and Mindfulness Dangerous?

When I began meditating in 1984, most people I talked to about it would stare at me blankly, then quickly change the subject or shake their head and walk away. These days, discussions of meditation and mindfulness appear everywhere from business and medical journals, to addiction and trauma recovery groups, to education conferences. In this article, you'll learn why so many are turning to these techniques and how to avoid common misconceptions, dangers, and potential pitfalls.

By recent reports, you might think meditation and mindfulness are a "panacea" (cure all) for everything that ails you. Programs are sprouting up in hospitals for pain management, in prisons for inmate reform, and in military, police, and emergency response settings to help handle intense situations and recover from PTSD.

These techniques are used as a support in psychotherapy-for addiction and trauma recovery, defusing self-sabotage, increasing self-awareness, and taming self-criticism. They are increasingly sought after for dealing with the stress of living in our fast-paced, threat-sensitive world. To feed this demand, countless apps promise to bestow the benefits of these practices at the push of a button.

Yet, with the rise in popularity of mindfulness and meditation, I've begun to see some contrarian headlines, such as "New Study Shows Meditation Doesn't Make You Happier, More Creative," "Meditation Not a Panacea," or "Christians Should Be Wary of Meditation."

As a meditation teacher, I hear beginning students say things like:

• "Meditation was supposed to be relaxing-but it made me irritated."

• "Meditation was supposed to feel good, but it made me more stressed out."

• "I thought meditation would help me sleep, but it gave me nightmares."

• "I thought meditation was supposed to help me accept myself, but it made me more self-critical."

• "I am more aware of my impulsiveness than ever. How is this helping me?"

What's going on here?

(Hint: Meditation doesn't "make these things happen." It reveals them. Meditation and mindfulness make you more aware of what's happening in your subconscious mind.)

Let's demystify meditation and mindfulness by defining them clearly, so you can assess their function and effectiveness, understand misconceptions, and avoid dangers and potential pitfalls.

Meditation and Mindfulness Defined

By meditation I mean, "Mindfully focusing your attention on a specific focal object for a period of time." It's about training your mind to consciously focus your attention. It's that straightforward.

A focal object in meditation can be the sensations of breathing, a mantra or focusing phrase, the stream of your thoughts and feelings, the presence of God, a blank wall, or a candle flame. Focusing on chosen focal objects develops your ability to pay attention, be present, and fully engage with what you are doing.

"Mindfully" in the definition means that you exercise "mindfulness" during meditation. Mindfulness means, "paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, without judgment." In other words, you adopt the attitude of a curious observer, just noticing what is happening without judging it as "good or bad." A non-judgmental attitude enables you to see more clearly, instead of reacting from fear, bias, or prejudice-which distort insight.

To sum up, "meditation" is an attention-training technique and "mindfulness" is an effective attitude for practicing this technique. You could also say that meditation is an opportunity to practice mindfulness. Together, meditation and mindfulness give you a deeper understanding of how your mind works.

Here's how it goes in practice:

As you meditate on a specific focal object, you notice moments when your mind wanders off to other things-such as an argument you had yesterday, a childhood memory, a presentation you have later today, or what you might have for lunch. Mindfulness enables you to recognize when and where your mind wanders, accept this as something a busy mind does, and gently return your attention to your chosen focal object.

During meditation, you will have a whole host of different thoughts and feelings. Some may feel good: some may scare you. Mindfulness treats them all the same-as passing bits of information. Using mindfulness, you come to realize that all thoughts and feelings come and go. They offer information, but they are no more substantial than that. They are nothing to be afraid of when you approach them mindfully. This insight can free you from anxiety about what is going on inside you.

The 3Rs of Meditation

I call the process of managing your mind during meditation the 3Rs: Recognize, Release, and Return. You recognize when you have wandered from your point of focus, release paying attention to that "distraction," and return to your chosen object of attention. It's that simple.

However, like any learned skill, it can be challenging at first. You may find your mind wanders most of the time. You may find yourself caught up in negative thoughts and feelings. You may find yourself irritated, self-critical, bored, or wondering if you're doing it right-or if you're doing anything at all!

That's OK. Recognizing all of this is part of meditation. Meditation increases awareness. You do this by mindfully focusing your attention, recognizing and accepting what your mind does, releasing distractions, and returning to your chosen focus-again and again and again.

As you repeat this process, you develop a sense of ease with managing your thoughts and feelings and a freedom to choose what you focus on and what you release. By practicing mindfulness during meditation, you grow your ability to relate to all kinds of moments in your life with greater freedom and ease.

Further Benefits of Practice

As you meditate for a period of time (say 10-20 minutes) consistently, your mind quiets down, your emotions calm, and your body relaxes. You de-pressurize, let go of over-thinking, and release built-up stress. As you release stress, energy is freed up that your body and mind use to recover, repair, integrate, and heal.

You start to feel like yourself again. You realize that "who you are" is much more than "the chatter" in your mind or the emotions that can "take you over." You are a deeper witnessing presence who "has" thoughts, feelings, and experiences, but is not defined by them. This can be a life-altering discovery!

These benefits don't happen because you are trying to clear your mind, they happen as a result of practicing the 3Rs. As you practice consistently, you develop the skills of recognizing where your mind is focused, releasing what is not serving you or others, and returning to what matters most.

These are invaluable skills that serve you in anything you want to do, overcome, or accomplish. I would go so far as to say they are fundamental skills you need to live your life well. Why, then, weren't you taught these essential skills in school when you were young? Regardless of the reasons, at any age, you can learn them with a few simple instructions, insight into how they work, and consistent practice.

Personally, I like to practice first thing in the morning. For much of my life, I woke up feeling anxious about what I had to do in the day ahead. Yet, now, no matter how I feel when I wake up, I feel relaxed and centered after my morning practice. I have a calm reference point I can return to when I get irritated or stressed out, caught up in negativity, or feel overwhelmed by what's happening in the world around me.

Why Meditation and Mindfulness Are Especially Important These Days

Today there are infinite demands on our time, energy, and attention-and they call to us 24/7-making us feel as if we always need to be doing something productive. We feel compelled to respond instantly on social media and gather a steady stream of tantalizing bits of information to keep us informed and amused. Even entertainment becomes a "must-do" as we feel compelled to binge-watch to get "caught up" on as much enjoyment as possible in our "free-time."

Yet always being "on the go" is not healthy.

Our bodies and brains are not made to run in constant overdrive. We are designed to engage in activity, then to rest and recover from what we've done. In our downtime, our body repairs itself, integrates all that we've experienced, and heals cellular damage we've sustained.

If we don't honor this balance, our systems go haywire. We get exhausted, hold increasing levels of tension in our bodies, and become persistently anxious or depressed. In this "overcooked" state, we invite the host of chronic illnesses like cancer, heart disease, and auto-immune disorders that are epidemic.

Meditation is a structured time-out from all this activity, so you can focus inwardly, rest, and recover. At first, it may feel like "doing nothing," but, as we've seen, the process is a gentle, yet active, training of your mind. It allows you to step back from the frantic pace of life, consciously unwind, and observe what's going on inside.

Meditation and mindfulness reveal your inner workings. They uncover the subconscious biases that lead to arguments, poor judgment, and bad decisions. They shine a light on habits that drive unwanted results in your life. They help you more objectively observe what you are doing, so you can consciously choose healthy habits and let go of unhealthy ones.

Maybe most importantly for us in this hyper-driven consumer culture, they encourage us to slow down, take a deep breath, and pay attention to the relationships, gifts, and opportunities we already have, rather than always trying to be, have, and do more.

Conclusion: Are Meditation and Mindfulness Dangerous?

Are meditation and mindfulness dangerous? Yes. They threaten to make you more conscious and intentional. They are dangerous to your negative thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and beliefs. They release the stifling grip of fear, bias, and prejudice. They shine a light on what needs to change.

By practicing mindfulness in meditation, you learn to evaluate all sides of any situation more objectively, so you can make better decisions. You recognize what no longer serves you and others, so you can shift your time, energy, and attention to what does. And, you become more present, focused, and fully engaged in your experiences, so you live a richer, more purposeful life.

So, let me ask you, "Do you have a regular Meditation/Mindfulness practice?" If so, please share what works well for you.

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Enjoy your practice! 

By Kevin Schoeninger 

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Emotion, Stress and Health: Crash Course Psychology #26

The Voice In Your Head Is Not Who You Really Are - You Are The One Who Observes It

You Are Not Your Thoughts

The biggest lie perpetrated by mankind is the idea that the voice in your head is who you really are.

It's easy to understand why people believe the narrative in their minds because thoughts are real. They come at you every moment of the day and are unrelenting until they wear you down.

To illustrate how much we identify with our thoughts, years ago while meditating, I experienced no thoughts in what was a tiny pocket of time and believed I did not exist.

It was short lived because the experience frightened me to the extent I generated a thought in the next moment to confirm my existence.

This took place within a few seconds, yet it felt like an eternity.

Authors Steven C. Hayes and Spencer Smith explain in Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment how we form a conceptualised self which is difficult to move beyond: "The exciting part about seeing your own conceptualized self as something you hold on to arbitrarily is that truly new narratives may be possible that are, right now, outside of the story currently being told. But it can be frightening to open up to possibilities that go beyond your conceptualized self. If you are not your thoughts, then who are you?"

In this day and age, we're inundated with external noise. It has become more difficult than ever to tune it out, yet simultaneously it is taking place within our minds.

Thoughts do not confirm your sense of self as apparent in the earlier quote.

They are transitory and fleeting electrical episodes in the mind. You don't know what you will think next until the thoughts emerge.

Similarly, you may be tired or hungry and notice your thoughts are scattered.

In contrast, when feeling energetic, your thoughts are more positive. This is when people claim they are at their best and indicative of who they are.

I would argue you are not your thoughts at your best nor at your worst.

Who are you then?

You are the receiver and observer of your thoughts. You are the radio receiving and transmitting thoughts, but not the thoughts themselves.

As alluded to in the title, you are the person recognizing the experience of the thoughts.

You add context and meaning to what you experience and label it as good or bad judging by how the thought makes you feel. This is not necessarily a bad thing because human beings are meaning-making machines.

It's wired into our genetic disposition to make sense of the world, yet it can also be a double-edged sword if things go wrong.

Thoughts are mostly neutral and have little meaning save for the meaning you add to it.

I enjoy Mary O'Malley's point of view in What's in the Way Is the Way: A Practical Guide for Waking Up to Life in which she writes: "Life created the mind as a tool for maneuvering through Life, not to be in charge of it. The mind is a wonderful servant, but it is a horrible master. Giving it the task of being in charge of Life has created the world of struggle that most people live in all day long, keeping them cut off from peace and joy."

A Pebble Dropped In The Pond

The greatest victory you can undertake in your personal development is to recognize you are not your thoughts and detach from them. This is difficult to do and requires discipline and self-inquiry.

I have come to respect and pay attention to negative thoughts such as those imbued with: fear, anxiety, anger, etc. by observing them, not responding to them.

This took many years of practice and meditation. Before that, I was constantly dragged down by negative thoughts because I believed the narrative they espoused.

For example, if something unpleasant happened, I experienced negative thoughts that spiraled out of control. They turned into destructive emotional states and soon enough I was caught in a storm of pessimism.

There came a point where I had enough and started meditating in the evening to help me sleep better.

Once I became accustomed to meditating, I started journaling my thoughts and discovered a theme interweaving throughout my thinking process.

I objectively traced the thoughts and examined the underlying mechanism behind them.

For example, if I consumed alcohol and caffeine on particular days, my thoughts were erratic and impulsive.

Similarly, if I consumed a carbohydrate-rich diet high in sugar, I observed the same erratic thoughts.

It wasn't until I switched to whole foods and eliminated caffeine and alcohol from my diet that my erratic thoughts subsided alongside the other work I was doing.

I realize this is an extreme intervention because alcohol, sugar, and carbs are key components to a Western diet. Nevertheless, I was prepared to do whatever it took to gain peace of mind.

It's said the mind is likened to a calm pond of water, whereby a thought is a pebble dropped in the pond. The ripple effect of the pebble has an undulating influence on the mind and body.

I'm not suggesting you need to go to the extreme I did. In fact, it took two years of observations and what many nowadays call hacking one's health to notice what worked and what didn't.

During that time I lapsed often, yet it was important to discover how my diet and moods influenced my thoughts.

I embarked on this because I wanted to inhabit my body completely, without a cocktail of chemicals dictating my quality of life.

Sure, I miss foods rich in carbohydrates but the inner peace I gained far outweighs the moments of pleasure carbs offer.

I mention this to highlight how the voice in your head can be influenced by external factors.

If foods and stimulating drinks can influence your thoughts, the voice in your head is not the real you but subject to what you put in your body.

Even Negative Thoughts Are Useful

To gain a better understanding of your thoughts requires becoming self-aware and mindful of your inner world.

Loch Kelly explains this in Shift into Freedom: The Science and Practice of Open-Hearted Awareness: "One of the most important things to learn is how to separate awareness from thinking, and then we can see that thoughts and emotions are not the center of who we are."

Many people are driven by their unconscious desires and constantly react to their external environment.

They are governed by what takes place outside, it becomes difficult to make sense of what is happening within.

To summarise the plan I undertook to make peace with my thoughts:

1. Journal my thoughts.

2. Be mindful of the foods I consumed.

3. Know how alcohol and caffeine affect me once they are consumed, particularly in the ensuing hours and days.

4. Observe my moods throughout the day while paying attention to external triggers.

5. Be aware when my blood sugar levels drop which depletes glucose to the brain. This can affect thoughts.

It goes without saying: be sensible and do not experiment with yourself if you are depressed or suffer from a mentally diagnosed condition. Seek professional advice and guidance. This is not intended to replace professional treatment, nor do I expect it to be taken as advice.

Thoughts themselves are not the problem.

The voice inside your head is something you can observe and turn the volume down on.

It is unwise to get rid of negative thoughts because they can serve a purpose.

I discovered this through many years of self-inquiry. It requires integrating them into the wholeness of your being rather than try to abolish them completely.

All thoughts have their place in the mind, even negative ones.

The key is to dissociate from negative thoughts and choose empowering ones in their place.

By turning down the volume on negative chatter you allow the authentic self to emerge.

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Contagious Subway Laughter

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Relationship Between Health, Wealth & Romance

At one time or another, you are bound to find yourself in the midst of a Health, Wealth, or Romance (relationship) crisis - or a combination thereof - and left to wonder what if anything should or could you do.

So, what should or could you do?

The first thing that you need to do is realize and understand the relationship these three very important factors in your life have in common. Something many people take for granted, isolating one from the other; hence, the only outcome, more often than not, is an escalation of the problem.

The solution, in all reality, is relatively simple - You must see the three, Health, Wealth & Romance as the whole of A Better Lifestyle. To quote Frank Sinatra, "You can't (shouldn't) have one without the other". It's a cycle you should not even attempt to disturb, much less break.

The degree of harmony and balance you maintain with Health, Wealth & Romance will be a determining factor in your lifestyle. If you haven't done this already... It's Never Too Late!

Health - Accommodate a proper healthy diet and exercise routine (doesn't need to be every day nor strenuous).

Limit Fatty Foods

Keep a low in fat. Saturated fat such fried foods, chocolate, cakes, and biscuits should not be a part of your regular diet. Unlike unsaturated fats, this fat is easily deposited as fatty tissue and will convert into cholesterol, causing your blood cholesterol level to go up, often to unsafe measures.

Reduce "Empty Calories"

Empty Calories are all those things you consume which are high in energy. However good this may sound on the surface, this energy comes from things such as alcohol and sugary drinks and serves no benefit in the nourishment of your body - not to mention that this energy is also short-lived. Consumed in "moderation", these drinks may pause no real problem, however.

Eat Foods Rich in Calcium and Iron

Calcium - is essential for maintaining strong, healthy bones.
Iron - helps deliver oxygen throughout the body

The Breakfast Myth Unfolded

Simply put - Don't skimp on it. A hearty breakfast will provide you the energy needed to push forward through your day at the office (or wherever you may work).

A Few Tips For Healthy Breakfasts:

- Fresh fruit, whole grain (bread or cereal)
- Rolled oats made with quick oats
- Toast with a thin spread of margarine (polyunsaturated or monounsaturated).
- A small glass of orange juice
- Yoghurt (preferably plain) with some fresh fruit topping

Never, ever underestimate the importance that a regular exercise routine, no matter how moderate, is to maintain a healthy body and mind.

Wealth - Although most commonly defined in financial terms... It is better defined in terms of "the degree of happiness in your life (loved ones, friends, etc.). Nevertheless, financial "does" play a big role in accommodating for the other two aspects of Health and romance. That's why it's essential that you find the right system - one that is time-tested and meets your needs and expectations. Just be aware of the many ill-intended "gurus" offering their less-than-complete system; full of empty promises. Do your diligence.

Romance - By far could be the most interesting, yet disappointing, and frustrating of the three. However, what you want to keep in mind, whether man or woman, is that the best practices to follow are faithfulness & truthfulness. This piece of fact comes to you from 40+ years of marriage (yep, to the same woman). with this one the cards may very well always be on the table, so walk lightly... and whatever you do - adhere to those two best practices.

By Sammi C
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