How to Exert Yourself Socially
We live in a social world, one that can be difficult to navigate for those who don't consider themselves to be outgoing extroverts.
Looking at the people around us who seem to float through social situations with ease, we may wonder how in the world they do it. The good news is that even if we're not extroverts, there are ways to overcome the discomfort you feel in those situations.
The more you practice these techniques, the more you will start to feel at ease when presented with a challenging social scene.
Smile at People
People who are shy are often mistaken for being rude or unfriendly, when in reality, they are just uncertain about how to react when they meet new people. They're not sure what to say or how to act, so they stay quiet and maybe even look away. This makes a poor first impression on others and then you have to work overtime in order to win them over.
A smile, surprisingly, goes a long way. Even if you don't have all the right things to say, smiling at someone lets them know you're happy to meet them and you're friendly. Also try smiling more in general.
When you make eye contact with a stranger, don't immediately avert your eyes. Try smiling and most of the time the other person will smile right back.
Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact with people goes hand in hand with smiling at them.
If you're shy, your first instinct might be to look away when you're uncomfortable, but making eye contact is an important part of making a connection with someone. When you don't look at the other person in the conversation, it seems like you're bored or uninterested in what they have to say.
When in a conversation with someone you should be looking them directly in the eye while you're speaking and while they are speaking.
Ask Questions
If you're not sure what to talk about with a new person, ask them questions about themselves. Most people enjoy talking about themselves and are flattered that you're interested in getting to know them better.
This is a great technique that will take the pressure off of you having to think of things to say. Be sure to ask open ended questions that aren't too personal so the person will feel comfortable.
Really Pay Attention
Pay attention when you meet someone new and try to remember their name for future encounters. People will feel flattered that you remembered their name and details about them the next time you cross paths.
Don't Give Up
When you first try these techniques, you might still feel extremely uncomfortable. That's okay! It will take time and practice before this starts to feel like second nature, but over time it will seem easier to interact with people the more you consciously change your approach.
Consider Another Approach
Hypnosis has been extremely effective in helping people who struggle in social situations feel more confident and at ease. For those suffering from social anxiety, hypnotherapy is a great treatment option.
by Peter James Field
Article source;http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/How-to-Exert-Yourself-Socially/403643
Peter Field is a leading UK therapist. His hypnotherapy Birmingham and London clinics provide life-changing help to people from across the UK and farther afield. Peter's extensive range of therapeutic self-hypnosis downloads is now available.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/How-to-Exert-Yourself-Socially/403643
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Saturday, 6 October 2018
Thursday, 30 August 2018
Four Essentials to Maintaining a Healthy Mind
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavoring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination, or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Let's look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energized, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realize that who you are has tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow you're self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have a vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.
Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyze our best efforts and sabotage our endeavors. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confident your going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognize your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
by Omar Z. Phillips
Omar Phillips writes articles aimed at helping us live the abundant life we were put on the earth to live. He firmly believes, God is on our side and that life is to be lived to its fullest. He invites you to join him as he documents his journey. Visit him at:http://www.facesetlikeflint.co.uk to find out more.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/24914
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavoring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination, or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Let's look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energized, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realize that who you are has tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow you're self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have a vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyze our best efforts and sabotage our endeavors. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confident your going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognize your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
by Omar Z. Phillips
Omar Phillips writes articles aimed at helping us live the abundant life we were put on the earth to live. He firmly believes, God is on our side and that life is to be lived to its fullest. He invites you to join him as he documents his journey. Visit him at:http://www.facesetlikeflint.co.uk to find out more.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/24914
Monday, 6 August 2018
Friday, 3 August 2018
The Mindfulness of Pure Experience
Dropping any story or narrative in your head about what’s happening right now … what are the sensations you’re feeling at this moment?
What are you smelling, tasting, feeling, hearing, seeing? What colors, textures, qualities of light can you perceive? What does it feel like where your body makes contact with your clothing, with your chair, with the earth?
This is your pure sensory experience, and it is rare that most of us let ourselves just stay in this place.
Usually, we’re caught up in a narrative about ourselves, our lives, our current situation, other people. We might notice the pure experience, but almost immediately we start judging it, wishing it were different, getting upset at it, or wishing it didn’t have to change.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with having thoughts about our experience — it’s natural. But it can be the cause of anxiety, fear, unhappiness, frustration.
Dropping into the mindfulness of pure experience is a way we can deal with those problems, in any moment.
Actually, this is what meditation is, for the most part — dropping into the pure experience. Many people misunderstand, and think, “I shouldn’t be thinking! I’m screwing this up, because I keep having thoughts.” This is not a problem. When you meditate, thoughts will come up. You will get lost in a train of thought.
What you want to do, in meditation, is get better at noticing when you’re lost in a train of thought. Then, after noticing, simply return the immediate sensations of your breath and the rest of your current experience. It’s like waking up from a dream. Meditation is training to wake up more often and stay awake longer.
Let’s talk about dropping out of thought and into a pure experience.
What Pure Experience Is
So what do I mean by “pure experience”? Isn’t everything part of our experience, including thoughts? Yes, that’s technically correct (the best kind of correct), but it’s useful to distinguish between our train of thoughts (what I like to call our “story” or “narrative” about our experience) and the actual sensations of what’s happening right now.
A couple examples of the difference between the two:
- You feel coldness on your skin (sensation). You immediately think, “This sucks, I don’t like the cold, I need to get warmer.” This is your narrative about the situation, your interpretation, your judgment. It makes you unhappy. The pure experience of cold, without judgment or narrative, is just a sensation.
- You’re in an airport, and there are noises from people talking all around you, smells from the pretzel shop, light and colors and shapes and visual textures, and more. These are your sensory experience. Your story about how irritating the people are, or how you need to get a cinnamon pretzel in your belly right now, are your thoughts, judgments, narrative. The story can cause you to be unhappy with the situation, but the sensations are just sensations.
So right now, you can notice your sensory experience:
- What can you hear? Take a moment to pay attention to all auditory sensations you are receiving.
- What light can you see? What is its quality?
- What colors and shapes can you see? Soak in the visual sensory information you’re receiving.
- What touch sensations can you notice in your body right now? Can you feel your feet, your butt on a chair, your jaw, your chest?
What do you notice? Can you be curious about these sensations, and stay with them?
Noticing Thoughts, and Returning to Pure Experience
What happens when you (inevitably) start thinking about the sensations instead of staying with them?
Well, this can lead to an extended daydream as you get lost in the narrative about your experience. Now you’re not actually experiencing the moment, but caught in your story and judgments.
These judgments usually aren’t helpful — they say some version of, “I don’t like this situation (or another person, or something about myself) and I want it to be different.” Or, “I love this so much and I never want it to end, but it will, oh why does it have to end?” Either way, we can be unhappy, frustrated, clinging to what we don’t want to lose or rejecting what we don’t want to experience.
Instead, we can let go of the story, let go of the judgment, and return to the sensations.
We can practice getting better at noticing whether we’re “in our head” or “in our body.” That means noticing whether you’re lost in thoughts or present with your experience.
Once we notice being lost in thoughts, we don’t have to judge that. We can just notice, non-judgmentally, and then make it a habit to return to the sensation. What sensations can you notice right now?
Don’t judge the sensations, just pay attention to them. Don’t push them away and wish they were different, just be curious about them. Don’t cling to them if you like them, but notice with gratitude and let them flow past you lightly.
This is returning to pure experience, with mindfulness and gratitude.
This is the joyful mindfulness of the present moment. Practice now!
BY LEO BABAUTA
Thursday, 5 July 2018
Four Essentials to Maintaining a Healthy Mind
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavoring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Lets look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energized, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realize that who you are has tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow you're self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.
Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyze our best efforts and sabotage our endeavors. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confident your going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognize your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
Omar Z. Phillips
Omar Phillips writes articles aimed at helping us live the abundant life we were put on the earth to live. He firmly believes, God is on our side and that life is to be lived to its fullest. He invites you to join him as he documents his journey. Visit him at:http://www.facesetlikeflint.co.uk to find out more.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/249142
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavoring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Lets look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energized, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realize that who you are has tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow you're self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.
Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyze our best efforts and sabotage our endeavors. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confident your going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognize your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
Omar Z. Phillips
Omar Phillips writes articles aimed at helping us live the abundant life we were put on the earth to live. He firmly believes, God is on our side and that life is to be lived to its fullest. He invites you to join him as he documents his journey. Visit him at:http://www.facesetlikeflint.co.uk to find out more.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/249142
Friday, 29 June 2018
How to Exert Yourself Socially
We live in a social world, one that can be difficult to navigate for those who don't consider themselves to be outgoing extroverts.
Looking at the people around us who seem to float through social situations with ease, we may wonder how in the world they do it. The good news is that even if we're not extroverts, there are ways to overcome the discomfort you feel in those situations.
The more you practice these techniques, the more you will start to feel at ease when presented with a challenging social scene.
Smile at People
People who are shy are often mistaken for being rude or unfriendly, when in reality, they are just uncertain about how to react when they meet new people. They're not sure what to say or how to act, so they stay quiet and maybe even look away. This makes a poor first impression on others and then you have to work overtime in order to win them over.
A smile, surprisingly, goes a long way. Even if you don't have all the right things to say, smiling at someone lets them know you're happy to meet them and you're friendly. Also try smiling more in general.
When you make eye contact with a stranger, don't immediately avert your eyes. Try smiling and most of the time the other person will smile right back.
Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact with people goes hand in hand with smiling at them.
If you're shy, your first instinct might be to look away when you're uncomfortable, but making eye contact is an important part of making a connection with someone. When you don't look at the other person in the conversation, it seems like you're bored or uninterested in what they have to say.
When in a conversation with someone you should be looking them directly in the eye while you're speaking and while they are speaking.
Ask Questions
If you're not sure what to talk about with a new person, ask them questions about themselves. Most people enjoy talking about themselves and are flattered that you're interested in getting to know them better.
This is a great technique that will take the pressure off of you having to think of things to say. Be sure to ask open ended questions that aren't too personal so the person will feel comfortable.
Really Pay Attention
Pay attention when you meet someone new and try to remember their name for future encounters. People will feel flattered that you remembered their name and details about them the next time you cross paths.
Don't Give Up
When you first try these techniques, you might still feel extremely uncomfortable. That's okay! It will take time and practice before this starts to feel like second nature, but over time it will seem easier to interact with people the more you consciously change your approach.
Consider Another Approach
Hypnosis has been extremely effective in helping people who struggle in social situations feel more confident and at ease. For those suffering from social anxiety, hypnotherapy is a great treatment option.
by Peter James Field
Peter Field is a leading UK therapist. His hypnotherapy Birmingham and London clinics provide life-changing help to people from across the UK and farther afield. Peter's extensive range of therapeutic self-hypnosis downloads is now available.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/How-to-Exert-Yourself-Socially/403643
We live in a social world, one that can be difficult to navigate for those who don't consider themselves to be outgoing extroverts.
Looking at the people around us who seem to float through social situations with ease, we may wonder how in the world they do it. The good news is that even if we're not extroverts, there are ways to overcome the discomfort you feel in those situations.
The more you practice these techniques, the more you will start to feel at ease when presented with a challenging social scene.
Smile at People
People who are shy are often mistaken for being rude or unfriendly, when in reality, they are just uncertain about how to react when they meet new people. They're not sure what to say or how to act, so they stay quiet and maybe even look away. This makes a poor first impression on others and then you have to work overtime in order to win them over.
A smile, surprisingly, goes a long way. Even if you don't have all the right things to say, smiling at someone lets them know you're happy to meet them and you're friendly. Also try smiling more in general.
When you make eye contact with a stranger, don't immediately avert your eyes. Try smiling and most of the time the other person will smile right back.
Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact with people goes hand in hand with smiling at them.
If you're shy, your first instinct might be to look away when you're uncomfortable, but making eye contact is an important part of making a connection with someone. When you don't look at the other person in the conversation, it seems like you're bored or uninterested in what they have to say.
When in a conversation with someone you should be looking them directly in the eye while you're speaking and while they are speaking.
Ask Questions
If you're not sure what to talk about with a new person, ask them questions about themselves. Most people enjoy talking about themselves and are flattered that you're interested in getting to know them better.
This is a great technique that will take the pressure off of you having to think of things to say. Be sure to ask open ended questions that aren't too personal so the person will feel comfortable.
Really Pay Attention
Pay attention when you meet someone new and try to remember their name for future encounters. People will feel flattered that you remembered their name and details about them the next time you cross paths.
Don't Give Up
When you first try these techniques, you might still feel extremely uncomfortable. That's okay! It will take time and practice before this starts to feel like second nature, but over time it will seem easier to interact with people the more you consciously change your approach.
Consider Another Approach
Hypnosis has been extremely effective in helping people who struggle in social situations feel more confident and at ease. For those suffering from social anxiety, hypnotherapy is a great treatment option.
by Peter James Field
Peter Field is a leading UK therapist. His hypnotherapy Birmingham and London clinics provide life-changing help to people from across the UK and farther afield. Peter's extensive range of therapeutic self-hypnosis downloads is now available.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/How-to-Exert-Yourself-Socially/403643
Friday, 1 June 2018
Are You a Chronic Worrier?
There are many things about the brain and the mind that we still don't know, or at least that we don't know for certain.
One question is "Why are some people, chronic worriers?" Is there something in their genes-a "worry gene," perhaps-that runs in the family? Or is it something else?
The nightmare for them is this: What if a cure for chronic worry can never be found?
We hope that one day we'll come up with the real source of the "worrier state."
Science believes that when people live with high levels of anxiety (i.e., those who are chronic worriers), constantly look for and expect the worst (including danger), and live in constant fear of everything, the result is a life that isn't so easy.
Everyone knows that being a worrier isn't good for many reasons. Nobody wants to be a worrier, and those who are worriers often attempt to switch to a "non-worrier" state and, unfortunately, are unsuccessful.
Chronic worriers are prone to many illnesses, live under constant stress, are unable to concentrate properly, and have impulsive tendencies and problems with memory. More importantly, they waste their brainpower with unnecessary worrying.
Obviously, life comes with no guarantees: There are bad moments every now and then. For a chronic worrier, however, life is all about bad moments. They believe (wrongly) that if they expect the worst, they'll never be disappointed.
This thought process is definitely the greatest barrier to living a good life and robs the worrier's life of meaning, peace, and joy.
What can the worrier do to rid themselves of chronic worry?
They can change the way they think.
It's easy to say and hard to do. However, if you're a worrier, what other choice do you have? For a start, you can follow these suggestions:
• Ask for professional help if needed.
• Pay close attention to your diet. What you eat influences your mood and brain function, more so than you may believe.
• Exercise regularly. Exercise helps the brain to function well and assists in combatting those "moody days" that tend to arise frequently in a worrier's life.
• Learn and use relaxation response exercise. It's the perfect way to calm a busy mind. (I personally took a course on this technique and found that it works very well.)
• Try an 8-week course on mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) or mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT). These types of classes are very helpful.
• Incorporate meditation into your routine. Do a bit of research and choose the type of meditation that works best for you.
• Consider hypnosis. Some people find it a helpful strategy for coping with a "worrier mind."
• Think about trying the emotional freedom technique (EFT). Many have found it to be a good way to change a worrisome state of mind.
• Acknowledge the importance of having good social support from your spouse, other family members, friends, and colleagues.
Finally, learn from other sources what else you can do to change your unhealthy way of thinking, and stay positive. Change from a chronic worrier into a positive-thinking warrior!
http://ezinearticles.com/?Are-You-a-Chronic-Worrier?&id=9940264
Tuesday, 29 May 2018
Tuesday, 22 May 2018
The Voice In Your Head Is Not Who You Really Are - You Are The One Who Observes It
You Are Not Your Thoughts
The biggest lie perpetrated by mankind is the idea that the voice in your head is who you really are.
It's easy to understand why people believe the narrative in their minds because thoughts are real. They come at you every moment of the day and are unrelenting until they wear you down.
To illustrate how much we identify with our thoughts, years ago while meditating, I experienced no thoughts in what was a tiny pocket of time and believed I did not exist.
It was short lived because the experience frightened me to the extent I generated a thought in the next moment to confirm my existence.
This took place within a few seconds, yet it felt like an eternity.
Authors Steven C. Hayes and Spencer Smith explain in Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment how we form a conceptualised self which is difficult to move beyond: "The exciting part about seeing your own conceptualized self as something you hold on to arbitrarily is that truly new narratives may be possible that are, right now, outside of the story currently being told. But it can be frightening to open up to possibilities that go beyond your conceptualized self. If you are not your thoughts, then who are you?"
In this day and age, we're inundated with external noise. It has become more difficult than ever to tune it out, yet simultaneously it is taking place within our minds.
Thoughts do not confirm your sense of self as apparent in the earlier quote.
They are transitory and fleeting electrical episodes in the mind. You don't know what you will think next until the thoughts emerge.
Similarly, you may be tired or hungry and notice your thoughts are scattered.
In contrast, when feeling energetic, your thoughts are more positive. This is when people claim they are at their best and indicative of who they are.
I would argue you are not your thoughts at your best nor at your worst.
Who are you then?
You are the receiver and observer of your thoughts. You are the radio receiving and transmitting thoughts, but not the thoughts themselves.
As alluded to in the title, you are the person recognizing the experience of the thoughts.
You add context and meaning to what you experience and label it as good or bad judging by how the thought makes you feel. This is not necessarily a bad thing because human beings are meaning-making machines.
It's wired into our genetic disposition to make sense of the world, yet it can also be a double-edged sword if things go wrong.
Thoughts are mostly neutral and have little meaning save for the meaning you add to it.
I enjoy Mary O'Malley's point of view in What's in the Way Is the Way: A Practical Guide for Waking Up to Life in which she writes: "Life created the mind as a tool for maneuvering through Life, not to be in charge of it. The mind is a wonderful servant, but it is a horrible master. Giving it the task of being in charge of Life has created the world of struggle that most people live in all day long, keeping them cut off from peace and joy."
A Pebble Dropped In The Pond
The greatest victory you can undertake in your personal development is to recognize you are not your thoughts and detach from them. This is difficult to do and requires discipline and self-inquiry.
I have come to respect and pay attention to negative thoughts such as those imbued with: fear, anxiety, anger, etc. by observing them, not responding to them.
This took many years of practice and meditation. Before that, I was constantly dragged down by negative thoughts because I believed the narrative they espoused.
For example, if something unpleasant happened, I experienced negative thoughts that spiraled out of control. They turned into destructive emotional states and soon enough I was caught in a storm of pessimism.
There came a point where I had enough and started meditating in the evening to help me sleep better.
Once I became accustomed to meditating, I started journaling my thoughts and discovered a theme interweaving throughout my thinking process.
I objectively traced the thoughts and examined the underlying mechanism behind them.
For example, if I consumed alcohol and caffeine on particular days, my thoughts were erratic and impulsive.
Similarly, if I consumed a carbohydrate-rich diet high in sugar, I observed the same erratic thoughts.
It wasn't until I switched to whole foods and eliminated caffeine and alcohol from my diet that my erratic thoughts subsided alongside the other work I was doing.
I realize this is an extreme intervention because alcohol, sugar, and carbs are key components to a Western diet. Nevertheless, I was prepared to do whatever it took to gain peace of mind.
It's said the mind is likened to a calm pond of water, whereby a thought is a pebble dropped in the pond. The ripple effect of the pebble has an undulating influence on the mind and body.
I'm not suggesting you need to go to the extreme I did. In fact, it took two years of observations and what many nowadays call hacking one's health to notice what worked and what didn't.
During that time I lapsed often, yet it was important to discover how my diet and moods influenced my thoughts.
I embarked on this because I wanted to inhabit my body completely, without a cocktail of chemicals dictating my quality of life.
Sure, I miss foods rich in carbohydrates but the inner peace I gained far outweighs the moments of pleasure carbs offer.
I mention this to highlight how the voice in your head can be influenced by external factors.
If foods and stimulating drinks can influence your thoughts, the voice in your head is not the real you but subject to what you put in your body.
Even Negative Thoughts Are Useful
To gain a better understanding of your thoughts requires becoming self-aware and mindful of your inner world.
Loch Kelly explains this in Shift into Freedom: The Science and Practice of Open-Hearted Awareness: "One of the most important things to learn is how to separate awareness from thinking, and then we can see that thoughts and emotions are not the center of who we are."
Many people are driven by their unconscious desires and constantly react to their external environment.
They are governed by what takes place outside, it becomes difficult to make sense of what is happening within.
To summarise the plan I undertook to make peace with my thoughts:
1. Journal my thoughts.
2. Be mindful of the foods I consumed.
3. Know how alcohol and caffeine affect me once they are consumed, particularly in the ensuing hours and days.
4. Observe my moods throughout the day while paying attention to external triggers.
5. Be aware when my blood sugar levels drop which depletes glucose to the brain. This can affect thoughts.
It goes without saying: be sensible and do not experiment with yourself if you are depressed or suffer from a mentally diagnosed condition. Seek professional advice and guidance. This is not intended to replace professional treatment, nor do I expect it to be taken as advice.
Thoughts themselves are not the problem.
The voice inside your head is something you can observe and turn the volume down on.
It is unwise to get rid of negative thoughts because they can serve a purpose.
I discovered this through many years of self-inquiry. It requires integrating them into the wholeness of your being rather than try to abolish them completely.
All thoughts have their place in the mind, even negative ones.
The key is to dissociate from negative thoughts and choose empowering ones in their place.
By turning down the volume on negative chatter you allow the authentic self to emerge.
To live a remarkable life, you must take consistent action in spite of your fears and doubts. Download a FREE copy of my motivational eBook, NAVIGATE LIFE and embark upon your journey of greatness today!
By Tony Fahkry
Article Source: http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Voice-In-Your-Head-Is-Not-Who-You-Really-Are---You-Are-The-One-Who-Observes-It&id=9938200
Friday, 18 May 2018
Wednesday, 16 May 2018
Hard-wired Failure - Motivational Speaker
Why is it that 85 percent of lottery winners are in the same or worse position that they were in, within 3 years of their winning? Why is it that soon after you get a raise, you are back in the same spot you were in before the raise? Coincidence? Never. Destiny.
There is a mechanism in the brain responsible for keeping us at our current level of success. It will consistantly return us to its setting, whether we go below or above that point. It is called the PSYCHO-CYBERNETIC MECHANISM(PCM). It job is to maintain the set of instructions that it is receiving, that our beliefs recognize as "safe". Not safe like, "it's safer to have a million bucks than to not have money" but like, "we've been traveling this path so often and for so long, that it's obviously safe." The body likes comfort zones and the PCM will try to keep us there.
How? Chemicals. As soon as we leave our programmed comfort zones, the PCM kicks in, and chemicals are released into the body that cause doubt, fear, and anxiety. Think of this: when you're getting ready to cross the road and you suddenly see a car flying over the hill, fear of getting hit draws you back to the side. The PCM kicked in by reflecting on the embedded belief that if you get hit, it's...well, it's not a good thing, so it shot this chemical into your body that successfully kept you from crossing.
Now think of this: you have an embedded belief that you will never have a lot of money, or that money comes very hard. After all, you're only making $30,000 per year. The moment you are presented with literature that is contrary to that, such as advice or strategies to build wealth, your super faithful PCM goes off, sending you the juice, and keeping you from going into foreign territory. "That's just a scam. There's no way I could ever do that. It's too big of a risk." And yet again, the outer noise drowns out the inner song.
That's the first dose. If you somehow step beyond that, you'll get more much stronger doses. Like knock-out editions. The only way you can ever win, is by resetting what the PCM recognizes as safe. Your conditioning - your beliefs and habits. This is changed by changing your immediate environment. It takes long. A few months of consistant focus. Oh, and you can't fail. If you do you have to start again. The "don't give up" part comes in from the beginning until the time you have successfully changed the setting.
It is summed up like this: if you don't commit yourself to getting your goal at all costs, you won't win. Being somewhat interested will only waste your time. Your neurology won't change from just interest.
To create the new belief, determine what you want it to be. Is it that you have a monthly income of a million dollars? Then focus on that with all your feeling and emotion. Take time to do it every morning as soon as you get up. Do it several times throughout the day, and again at night before falling asleep. Do this for many weeks without failing. You must find a way to outdo your own negative influence on yourself. If you can do this, you have mastered success.
By: Dennis Andrew
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Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Hard-wired-Failure---Motivational-Speaker/239604
Why is it that 85 percent of lottery winners are in the same or worse position that they were in, within 3 years of their winning? Why is it that soon after you get a raise, you are back in the same spot you were in before the raise? Coincidence? Never. Destiny.
There is a mechanism in the brain responsible for keeping us at our current level of success. It will consistantly return us to its setting, whether we go below or above that point. It is called the PSYCHO-CYBERNETIC MECHANISM(PCM). It job is to maintain the set of instructions that it is receiving, that our beliefs recognize as "safe". Not safe like, "it's safer to have a million bucks than to not have money" but like, "we've been traveling this path so often and for so long, that it's obviously safe." The body likes comfort zones and the PCM will try to keep us there.
How? Chemicals. As soon as we leave our programmed comfort zones, the PCM kicks in, and chemicals are released into the body that cause doubt, fear, and anxiety. Think of this: when you're getting ready to cross the road and you suddenly see a car flying over the hill, fear of getting hit draws you back to the side. The PCM kicked in by reflecting on the embedded belief that if you get hit, it's...well, it's not a good thing, so it shot this chemical into your body that successfully kept you from crossing.
Now think of this: you have an embedded belief that you will never have a lot of money, or that money comes very hard. After all, you're only making $30,000 per year. The moment you are presented with literature that is contrary to that, such as advice or strategies to build wealth, your super faithful PCM goes off, sending you the juice, and keeping you from going into foreign territory. "That's just a scam. There's no way I could ever do that. It's too big of a risk." And yet again, the outer noise drowns out the inner song.
That's the first dose. If you somehow step beyond that, you'll get more much stronger doses. Like knock-out editions. The only way you can ever win, is by resetting what the PCM recognizes as safe. Your conditioning - your beliefs and habits. This is changed by changing your immediate environment. It takes long. A few months of consistant focus. Oh, and you can't fail. If you do you have to start again. The "don't give up" part comes in from the beginning until the time you have successfully changed the setting.
It is summed up like this: if you don't commit yourself to getting your goal at all costs, you won't win. Being somewhat interested will only waste your time. Your neurology won't change from just interest.
To create the new belief, determine what you want it to be. Is it that you have a monthly income of a million dollars? Then focus on that with all your feeling and emotion. Take time to do it every morning as soon as you get up. Do it several times throughout the day, and again at night before falling asleep. Do this for many weeks without failing. You must find a way to outdo your own negative influence on yourself. If you can do this, you have mastered success.
By: Dennis Andrew
Take a look at this motivational presentation. Motivational Speaker Ohio
NNOS Studios Success Coaching.
Motivational Speaker request form. Motivational Speakers Ohio.
Article Source: http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Hard-wired-Failure---Motivational-Speaker/239604
Wednesday, 18 April 2018
Four Essentials to Maintaining a Healthy Mind
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavouring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Let's look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energised, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realise that who you have tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow your self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.
Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyse our best efforts and sabotage our endeavours. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confidence you're going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognise your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
by Omar Z. Phillips
http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/249142
Our Mind is one of our most precious possessions; it's also a possession that is easy to take for granted.
Rarely as human beings do we take stock and hold inventory of our thoughts and perpetual mediations.
But this simple habit can mean the difference between a healthy productive mind, operating at optimum, a servant able to enable the manifestation of our destiny. Or a troubled storm-torn vessel, unable to assist us is in the vicissitudes of life.
In this article, I want to highlight four main elements I feel will be deeply useful to consider when we are endeavouring to corral our minds in the direction that will produce the most desired results.
To further lay emphasis on the opportunity we have before us, I would have you consider the fact that a healthy mind more often than not is fundamental to a healthy body. A healthy mind enables us to think creatively and circumstances will invariably bend to the upbeat attitude of a healthy mind.
A healthy mind will attract to it not only healthy circumstances but also healthy company. It's been said bad company corrupts good habits. I charge we should choose our thoughts as carefully as we choose our friends and vice versa.
Our thoughts will either take us to our desired destination or plunge us to our dreaded fates. Our thoughts will ennoble us to feats of courage and determination or rob us of vital energy when life requires an extra push.
Let's look together at the four things that can greatly improve our thought life and enable our minds to maintain a healthy virile tone that will infuse all of life with purpose, meaning, worth and peace.
Attitude:
Let's begin with attitude; it's been said that in all of life's happenings, the one thing we can choose is our attitude. A negative attitude is one of the surest ways to eschew destruction through our whole system and destroy productive relations with our fellows. Even if we attract many other negative people to our pity party, the ensuing conversations will be so detrimental, we can be sure no positive thing can result. Likewise, when we choose in the face of a negative appearing circumstance a positive response, the lessons in the circumstance are learnt, the pain quickly passes and we are ennobled, energised, invigorated. And by default, those we come in contact with will reap the benefits.
Self Esteem:
A positive attitude is hard to maintain without a healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem is something so deep it affects our thoughts immensely. First please realise that who you have tremendous value and worth. You may have been told otherwise all your life, and circumstances may have conspired together to compound this notion. But please stop and look into the mirror, tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself you forgive yourself, tell yourself that you are the most valuable possession you have at your disposal, and invest in yourself. Allow your self to change all the destructive self-loathing thoughts; they won't help you or those around you. The moment you accept yourself and see your worth and invest in yourself the world will become a better place.
Meditation:
The next key thought I want to cover is our mediation, our constant mental fixations, what do we spend our time thinking about? Amidst the various pressures and circumstances, life poses, beneath the surface can be a volcano of anxieties, concerns and misgivings. If we don't discipline our minds and choose to maintain focus our lives can become bogged down in a mire of frustration from which we long to escape. It's very important in life to have vision. Take time to really consider your aims, purpose and reasons for doing what you do. Allow the sometimes disorienting process of change to operate in your life; be prepared to jettison dead weights that are stifling your progress. Establish your destination, and as you press towards it maintain a healthy meditation on your focus. When anxieties arise meditate on your focus. When you go to bed and when you rise, meditate on your focus. And you will find your thoughts steering your mind which in turn will steer your course and you'll make it.
Courage:
And last but by no means least I hope this final thought will add the so needed Icing to the cake; Courage. We addressed anxiety which is a form of fear. Fearful thoughts seek to paralyse our best efforts and sabotage our endeavours. Whether it is a case of self-doubt or the fear of people, apparently insurmountable obstacles or the great unknown. I encourage you to add courage to your arsenal of productive thoughts. Believe you can achieve and you will. Be brave enough to believe you have value despite naysayers. Press beyond the dead past and enter the yet unseen future, confidence you're going to make it, and life will bend to your faith.
Ultimately choose your attitude, recognise your intrinsic value. Take stock of your daily meditations and focus on your vision and purpose, and rise to life's challenges beginning in your mind, with the courage of believing thoughts and hopeful expectations. And you'll maintain a healthy mind that will serve you throughout your life.
by Omar Z. Phillips
http://www.articlesphere.com/Article/Four-Essentials-to-Maintaining-a-Healthy-Mind/249142
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